Like Attracts Like

Before I started Mike Duffy’s Personal Training I was often advised to hang out with other entrepreneurs. My mentors told me this repeatedly because they knew something I had yet to learn.

Like attracts like.

As the New Year’s holiday approaches there will be a lot of people making resolutions to stop eating sugar, to lose weight, to eat healthier, to quit smoking, to save more money, and so on.

Some of them will be successful but most won’t.

Now, after being in business for over 19 years I understand what my mentors meant. If you want to be a successful business owner then hang out with success business owners. You’ll learn so much from them and have a network of people that understand you and your goals.

The same goes for you if you’re trying to reach your own personal goals.

If you want to lose some weight… hang out with people that have the same goal.

One of the worst things you can do is hang out with people who don’t agree with your goals and will possibly sabotage them.

You probably have someone in mind that does this to you.

I remember a past client who had a bunch of different goals. One of them included smoking cessation. She had such a hard time quitting because her best friend (a smoker) routinely jeered her and poked fun at her for trying to quit. She would blow smoke towards her friend and make comments about how good her cigarette was.

Now if you’re a non-smoker like me this may sound crazy. How in the world does a cigarette sound good?

Well, when you’re addicted and trying to quit… your brain and body crave tobacco.

It’s important to understand habits and addiction. They’re not that much different in terms of this article.

So maybe the smoking example is hard for a lot of people to relate to these days. Here is something that a lot of people can understand…

Have you ever tried to quit sugar?

Then you know how hard it can be to avoid sweets. They’re everywhere. Donuts are in the office break room, candy is on the counter at your local bank, and the holidays are filled with sugar-loaded delights.

So we all know how hard it can be to get away from our vices.

That’s why it’s critical to find others that understand your goals AND your obstacles.

So what is your goal and where can you find someone or a group of people that understand you?

Find them, get to know them, and expand your community to include people on the same journey as you. You’ll be able to offer support and get support like never before – and that’s a huge benefit to you actually succeeding in reaching your goals.

We will be starting our next 6 Week Body Fat Challenge in January. This is a great way to join a community of people who are all on the same page. 30-80 people working together to lose weight and get healthy. Visit mikeduffyspt.com to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with me so that I can explain the details of our upcoming  6 Week Challenge. We’ll work out a plan to reach your goals and ensure that you’re focusing on what matters and leaving the rest of the confusing stuff behind.

About the Author:

Mike Duffy, BS, HLC, CPT is a certified personal trainer, holistic health coach, post re-hab specialist and owner of Mike Duffy’s Personal Training Studios. Mike has been training clients for over 30 years. He is currently celebrating his 19th anniversary at his Oakhurst location. You can learn more about what he does by calling 732-263-0202 or visiting his website mikeduffyspt.com to view testimonials as well as many amazing before and after pictures.